the-real-numbers:

the-real-numbers:

funlovingfuzzball:

the-real-numbers:

i have this cleaning mode that’s evolved from some other ADHD habits called Abandoned Tote Bag. If you have too much shit on your countertop or desk or whatever, you take the entire fucking pile and either immediately throw it out, put it back in its obvious place, or chuck it into a large tote bag. Place the tote bag out of the way, but in an easy to access place. Let it sit there for a few weeks. If you need items from the tote bag, feel free to go grab them and leave them near where you used them. Eventually you may get the urge to actually take care of the tote bag. If there are items in the tote bag that remain, unused, you can more easily justify putting them in deep storage, giving them away, or throwing them out, since you very clearly didn’t touch them. I have done this many times by accident but I think it might be an okay organization system now that I think about it.

Oh. Oh this is good. Oh I’m stealing this. Oh that’s going to be so helpful.

the best part of this is that you can leave the tote bag out as long as you like. but watch out

there is a cardboard box near my desk I haven’t touched in over a year

fantasialuna:

down-sizing-redux:

mostly-funnytwittertweets:

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iamnotlanuk:

iamnotlanuk:

iamnotlanuk:

it fucking sucks how you can do all the therapy and self healing in the world and you still have to wake up living under a capitalist death cult that’s killed community and crushes your soul

congrats you want to live and be happy

bad news the world doesn’t want that for you

I’ll still love fully and crawl to hope until my body gives out anyway I guess

tlbodine:

grison-in-space:

bread-tab:

she-waves-at-cats:

I think it needs to become common knowledge that “inability to read social cues” can show up as overcompensating.

You don’t know how much misbehaviour is allowed, so you become the perfect child who never tests rules.

You don’t know if someone is irritated with you, so you’ll be extra generous and self-effacing.

You don’t know how much is expected of you at work so you’ll kill yourself in a minimum-wage job and not notice that nobody else is working like this.

“Hardworking and quiet” should be as much of an autism red flag as “ignores rules and doesn’t know when to stop talking”. Or why don’t we just start using words to communicate so i can stop tracking everybody’s eyebrow twitches, that would be great.

Sometimes (though not nearly as often) you get subtypes of this where overcompensating even grows into a special interest. I’m looking at you, autistic actors, psychologists, etiquette experts, interculturalists, anthropologists, sociologists, hospitality gurus, fiction writers, philosophers… All you bemused scholars of humanity.

“Ah, this doesn’t apply to me… after years of intense study, I can reliably read most social cues!”

When you spend all day in a performance where you are so incredibly Normal and Socially Skilled and then collapse into a nonverbal puddle as soon as you get home, that’s an autism.

…

Also. “Not picking up on social cues” is a frame of the situation which looks in from the outside, where “social cues” are a mundane, obvious facet of reality.

As an internal experience, it feels more like: “Most other human beings are weird and unpredictable, especially in groups. They seem to have shared sets of secret rules and nearly imperceptible ways of communicating which lead to erratic, disturbing behavior.”

In addition: if you notice that your ability to parse and respond to social cues suddenly goes to absolute shit when you are tired or distracted… you might be looking at hypervigilant social compensation. like a swan gliding through a pond full of sailboats. sure, you might actually be more maneuverable and faster than the sailboats in some circumstances, but boy howdy are those little feets paddling underneath the surface..

….oh.

stuckinapril:

In my everything makes me burst into tears era

edwad:

sorry boss, i can’t make it to work today or ever again for the rest of my life becaus i don’t want to

kiricat:

crystaltoa:

k-dhd:

Even saying ”I’m so sorry, I completely forgot” sounds marginally better than ” I’m so sorry, I didn’t completely forget, I actually completely remembered. I thought about it the whole time and it stressed me out so much my brain built an insurmountable wall around it.”

Image description: A tweet by @danidonovan which reads: “the ADHD urge to lie about why you didn’t do something because ‘my brain refused to start on it’ doesn’t make sense to a lot of neurotypicals”

solreefs:

autism is living by vampire rules. light sensitivity. eating the wrong food makes you want to die. need to be explicitly invited places. weird sleep schedule. eating the same thing every time. specific rituals and routines. burst into flames at the sight of a crucifix. etc.